What Not To Say To Your Friend With Cancer

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According to the World Health Organization, breast cancer is the most common cancer among women worldwide, affecting one in every eight women (and about 1 in every 1,000 men). With statistics like this, it’s likely your life has been, or will be, impacted by breast cancer. When a loved one receives a diagnosis of cancer, our biggest hope is often that we can somehow help ease their pain and concern. But many times, we simply don’t have the words to say or know the best actions to take.

Have you hesitated to reach out to a friend with cancer because you were scared you’d say the wrong thing?

Were you unsure of the best way to help her?

In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month, we are sharing a great resource with you on how to shine the light of Jesus to those around you!

As a cancer survivor, Marissa hears this question all the time: “A friend of mine just found out she has cancer. What do I say? How can I help?” We are all familiar with the struggle to figure out how to support a friend during difficult times.

Here are three things not to say, based on Marissa’s experience as a cancer survivor and friend of cancer-fighters, and served up with a big dose of grace. 

Marissa Henley is a Christ-follower, wife, mom, writer, and latte addict. Following her battle with a rare cancer, she authored the book Loving Your Friend through Cancer: Moving Beyond “I’m Sorry” to Meaningful Support. She lives in Arkansas with her husband, two teenage boys, one diva princess, and one disobedient dog. She’d love to connect with you on InstagramFacebook, or her website